Lessons Learned

As my birthday approaches , I look back and see how quick time passes by. Its amazing how much change can happen in a year. Although I am still young and going through changes at times I feel like I'm going through a mid-life crisis. Those are the moments that make me realize how thankful I am to have what I have. I think we go through cycles of changes when the complete unexpected throws you off your stability, giving you the opportunity to reassess and adjust. This past year was one of those for me, but surely and slowly the things that were out of place are starting to fall into place again. As I reflect on things and trials I've been through I realize that I have learn so much.

1. Your heart will be broken and YOU WILL SURVIVE !
You would think as you get older handling heartaches/heartbreaks will become easier.  While the power of hurt can be just as potent if not more with each relationship that comes and goes, I've learned that we have an unbreakable spirit within us that enables us to get back up even after the most heart crushing experiences.  Its hard to imagine yourself happy after going through the pain of a breakup. But NO ONE can ever take away the baseline of your joy and happiness. Even if you are knocked off your feet for a period of time you will eventually get back to your stable stage.

YOU WILL LOVE AND BE LOVED AGAIN. NO PAIN IS FOREVER.

2. You will lose your job and eventually find a better fit.
Endings are new beginnings. You may be uncomfortable with the indecision but some of the best things in life are born from those times of being open to new opportunity.

3. People you love will hurt and disappoint you.
Try to look over their mistake and undertand their intentions. At times I let people in life too quickly and the quicker I let them in the quicker they are to disappoint me. This had made me become a little black and white about friendships, for the past year or so, if a friend hurt me or didn’t encompass the values I did, I’d cut that friendship off. But I’ve learned that we all can act a little selfish, forget to consider the people we love, or take others for granted. And that’s okay. People go through phases, people make mistakes – that shouldn’t discount a history of times your friend was there for you.

Sometimes a friendship just needs time to breathe before it can flow again. And that’s okay too

4. One's nature DOES NOT CHANGE. 

Our perspectives, our appearances, our qualities of mind and character can constantly change. But our core nature generally does not. People learn survival mechanisms at a fairly young age – and that way of being becomes difficult to change. 

If you want to truly see someone, look past their words, their charm and their charisma. Look past their qualities and even their mistakes. Look past the presentation and you’ll find their essence. Because while everything superficial can change, one’s nature does not.

5. Be careful who you share your heart and body with.

When we go against the quality of being honest and having strong morals of our own value, we harm our spirit. Know you boundaries and what you are willing or not willing to negotiate. And always remember, JUST BECAUSE SOMETHING FEELS GOOD AT THE MOMENT DOESNT MEAN IT IS GOOD DECISION FOR YOUR FUTURE. Ask the right questions so you wont keep making the same mistake. What kind of relationship do you want to attract in your life ? Is the decision you are making bring you closer to that or leading you off the path ?

6. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY.

Unfortunately many of us wait until there is a health scare, and then react to fix it, instead of being proactive to avoid it.  Stress, not eating, eating unhealthy food – these can all be factors that contribute to weakening your immune system. And when it’s weakened, those mutated cells are not recognized by your immune system. The bad cells are then nourished just like healthy cells, causing the cells to duplicate and potentially become cancerous cells.

Take care of your body. Even if you think you’re invincible, consider that it is the people who love you that will suffer if something were to happen to your health. If you won’t do it for yourself, do it for the people who care about you.

7. The difference between happy people and unhappy people is their level of gratitude.

If you observe anyone who is miserable, you will notice they are never satisfied and constantly blaming their history, luck or other people for their struggles. If you observe happy people, they are full of gratitude. Instead of focusing on what they don’t have to achieve/attract love/move forward – they choose to focus on solutions to create the life they want. Even when these people are triggered by a bad turn of events, after reacting with sadness/frustration/stress/anger – they get back to their baseline of happiness in due time. 

 Gratitude is a choice. Happiness is an attitude. How you will live your days is a choice that is completely within your control.

8. When it doesn't work out with someone in the present, it's because its meant to work out with someone in the future. 

This applies to relationships and opportunities as well. We can get so caught up expecting a certain outcome, only to get overwhelmed by disappointment when things don’t pan out the way we planned. During the moment, it may feel that life is out of place, but have faith that there is a bigger, better plan for you, and each person that touches your life is just preparing you for the person you’re meant to be with.

I just want to thank those who have been part of my up's and down's throughout my life journey, and to those who read my blog -from strangers to friends- I hope the lessons I've learn help you in your journey too. I am excited for this new chapter coming in my life and I look forward to sharing more experiences with you.